Why do we talk about Pornography in Yr 8?
We understand that parents and carers may have many concerns about their children ‘learning about’ internet pornography in Year 8. However, we feel that there are good reasons to introduce this topic in an age appropriate way at this stage:
Evidence shows that over half of young people this age have seen pornography on the internet
Recent research consistently shows that the majority of young people will have viewed internet pornography by the age of 13, with some viewing it as early as age 7[1,2].
Many parents and carers may understandably feel that ‘this is not my child!’, but, as parents, our perceptions of what our children are viewing do not always match the reality. A recent survey showed that whilst 75% of parents felt their child would not have seen pornography online, of those children, over half had, in fact, seen it[1]. Girls are just as likely to have viewed it as boys[2].
Internet pornography is very different to pornography in the past
The type of online pornography that is freely available to children and young people today is unrecognisable from the adult content portrayed in ‘top shelf’ magazines and videos 20 years ago. It often shows aggressive, violent, degrading (especially to women) or dangerous acts, can involve animals, incestuous relationships and minors.
How have they seen it?
This often happens unintentionally, perhaps through adverts and pop-ups while on gaming or film/sport streaming sites or through Google searches, unwittingly using search terms without understanding the full meaning of these words.
It may also be through the receipt of links to videos on pornographic sites from friends or by being shown videos on a friend’s phone or by older year groups, particularly when they start at secondary school.
The age of first exposure to pornography seems to correlate with the age of a young person first owning a smartphone[2]. Year 8 is also the minimum age at which young people can legally have social media accounts such as Instagram, Snapchat and TikTok, all of which are common platforms for accessing pornography.
What next?
A recent report from the BBFC found that young people who stumbled across online pornography at a young age (11-13 years), then started to actively seek it out, often to educate themselves about sex[1,3].
Not only can this then develop into a habit that is difficult to stop, but can also lead to completely unrealistic and sometimes harmful expectations about sex and relationships.
Respected’s response
We therefore feel that it is very important to teach young people at this stage to recognise and understand what pornography is and to equip them with the tools to respond in an appropriate way which keeps them safe and healthy.
Children of this age (and younger) have reported feeling ‘grossed out’ and ‘confused’ by viewing online pornography, or that they find it ‘funny’.
Think/Turn/Talk
So, in the Year 8 lesson (called ‘Fake News’) the Respected programme defines clearly what internet pornography is and explains that it does not show what a normal healthy sexual relationship looks like and is not the place to go to learn about sex. It does not show any pornographic images. It explains that watching pornography can become a habit that is difficult to stop so strongly encourages turning it off and talking to a parent/carer or trusted adult about it, also signposting to the Childline website and helpline for further advice and support.
This is a relatively short part of the Year 8 programme overall and the subject of internet pornography and its impact on relationships and self esteem is addressed in much more detail in Year 11, at which stage we know that the vast majority will have seen internet pornography.
How can I talk to my child about internet pornography?
References
1 British Board of Film Classification. Young People, Pornography and Age-verification; 2020 January 2020
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2 Children’s Commissioner. A lot of it is actually abuse: Young people and pornography; 2023
www.childrenscommissioner.gov.uk/resource/a-lot-of-it-is-actually-just-abuse-young-people-and-pornography
3 Parker I. Young people, Sex and Relationships: The New Norms. Inst Public Policy Res. Published online 2014
www.ippr.org/publications/young-people-sex-and-relationships-the-new-norms
4 Horvath M, Alys L, Massey K, Pina A, Scally M, Adler J. Basically... porn is everywhere: a rapid evidence assessment on the effects that access and exposure to pornography has on children and young people; 2013